tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4861963957673985204.post5315675116834269225..comments2023-06-04T07:13:45.932-04:00Comments on Issues of Humanity: What's Wrong With Being Poly? Nothing!Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17109902892532245070noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4861963957673985204.post-3974032055726952152014-09-08T00:11:18.240-04:002014-09-08T00:11:18.240-04:00My wife and I have been married for 5 years and po...My wife and I have been married for 5 years and poly for life. We initially had difficulty navigating the issues that tend to come along with being polyamorous such as jealousy or insecurities. Over time we got through the issues, but still had some emotional insecurities. After coming to the conclusion of just being open and honest with each other about everything the insecurities went away. We both love reading about polyamory and the people involved. Thanks for the post, it was a great read!PolyCouplehttp://polyadventures.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4861963957673985204.post-19619450330007470932013-11-25T19:13:40.520-05:002013-11-25T19:13:40.520-05:00I completely agree with all of this. This guys &qu...I completely agree with all of this. This guys "Brooks" seems to base his arguments on theory and not on practicality. If he would see the actual implementation of a polyamorous relationship and the dynamic of one, he'll see that his previous claims are unfounded. He seems to be focusing on showing why it's wrong for the sake of keeping marriage between one man and one woman by using, potentially, exaggerated claims and/or slippery slope fallacies. When you have to resort to fallacies, it means you haven't a leg to stand on. First he points out why Poly could be 'wrong' b/c of the lack of equality within the relationship and that each partner wouldn't have an equal share in 'power' over the relationship. Unequal power existed for centuries where the males dominated over the females in Monogamous relationships so that's where his statement false short. Power imbalance happens b/c people can be "dicks" sometimes and have other agendas so it isn't always a case in poly-relationships. This is evident in the studies he shows of women having a higher risk of depression and the like; in such scenarios it COULD BE POSSIBLE that the central figure in those 'studies' had to be the center of attention and a complete "misogynistic pig," let's just say that for now. But if he were to study polyamorous relationships that is actually built on love and not a man's ego, then he would see that there is no imbalance and that the 'power' is shared equally. <br /><br />Other issues that are apparent is that Brooks seems to lack the understanding of the differences between Polygamy and Polyamory and how I would consider them both a little Tomato/Tomahto with VERY subtle difference. The main difference being marriage. *If I'm mistake, someone please correct me. lol* <br /><br />But overall, any case against Polygamy, polyamory, or other alternative relationships can't be honestly thought of as immoral, ugly, unlawful or the like because we can remember that not too long ago it was "SINFUL AND UNLAWFUL" to marry or be romantically involved with someone of the opposite race. Let us never forget those horrid days b/c they are still relatively recent. They said you can't marry outside your race and now we have that right, they said you can't move in with someone w/o being married and we have that right now too, and I'm sure without a ounce of doubt that pretty soon we will have the right to have equal rights in what relationships we CHOOSE to have; whether it be monogamous, straight, gay, lesbian, transgendered, Polygamist, Polyamorous, WE HAVE THAT RIGHT AND I CHALLENGE SOMEONE TO SAY OTHERWISE! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com